Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Boooo For Broken Marriages

Today I came across a post someone put up declaring the break up of Scarlett Johansson & Ryan Reynolds's marriage.  And like that person, I sometimes wonder - is there any chance of a successful marriage these days.  I know, it rarely happens in Hollywood, but I'm really not even talking about them.  In real life people have no staying power anymore.  Its as if people have said its okay to walk away when you don't feel like loving someone anymore. 

I'm not married so I don't have any great advice to give.  But I do hope to be (yes, Love, I still love you) someday.  So, many times when I come across someone that has been in a successful marriage, I'm generally intrigued.  I like to ask, "What is your secret to a successful marriage?"  And many times they laugh.  But most of the time they follow with a nugget of information and I hold on to it dearly. 

So today I came across a comment someone made on an unrelated article. I thought I would share it.  This is what he said:

"Marriage is always a work in progress and failure is never an option. Keeping humor and excitement in your relationship will keep the fires burning in your hearts."

I love it - Marriage is always a work in progress and failure is never an option.  How often do we hear people say, "it just didn't work out".  I always want to say WHY????  Who gave up?  Why settle for failure?  So many times in life, its the things I had to fight for that were worth something.  The Bible clearly says:

Eph 6:13,14 Therefore put on the full armour of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place

Stand your ground, doing everything you know to stand....and then Stand firm some more.  Need I say more?

Keeping humor and excitement in your relationship will keep the fires burning in your hearts.  My Love knows more than anyone that I'm seriously just a goofball, but a serious goofball.  I don't mind doing a little jig here and there to make him smile.  However, deep down there is a seriousness about me that many see, but few can really breakthrough.  And at times, the seriousness gets the better of me.  I'm not saying ignore issues that need to be resolved, but I am saying, learn to laugh together.  My Love and I are still working on that, but I'd say we laugh with each other everyday.  And I think that's important. 

Again, I'm no expert.  I haven't even started.  But don't you think a nugget is a nugget, no matter who it comes from?


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